Love Worth Waiting For–Dating After Age 60
A single person over age 60 may bristle at the thought of dating. Perhaps the reluctance to take another chance on love is based on the death of a beloved spouse or a bitter divorce. Maybe you are single by choice and never really got the knack of dating, and now feel you are too set in your ways to find romance.
The truth is that many over 60 singles are having some of the best times of their lives meeting others and feeling the butterflies of attraction that they thought they would never experience again. It’s not too late to get in the game and start having fun dating over 60, with the help of some simple tips.
Know that you are not alone, many people continue dating over 60 and beyond. There are many fish still in the sea, they are just a bit more sophisticated. Retirement and a decreased social circle may limit the people you physically encounter day to day; however, many senior daters are finding over 60 dating sites to be the answer.
Before creating a dating profile, be sure to check that the dating service website is for you. More than ever, connection websites are responding to demographic demand and specializing in over 60 dating. Once you know you are in the right ballpark age-wise, do a bit of checking to be sure this is the type of “dating” you imagine. Yes, there are senior dating sites that specialize in strictly sexual hookups or dirty chats. If that is not your thing (you may want a sexy date, not a sex date), screen them out by doing a search for key phrases like “over 60 dating sites”, and choose the one that seems friendly, has reasonable terms,and protects your overall privacy.
Please resist the temptation to let a friend or relative create your profile. They may decide to place a picture of you from 1968 on the website. Yes, you were hot then, but you still are hot now! Choose a photo that captures who you are in present tense, or have someone take a recent, flattering shot. Don’t be afraid to let your personality shine in your profile, and always be truthful. A well meaning friend may try to make you more “marketable” by exaggerating to the point of deception, which will be awkward for you and your prospective match.
What do you do when you get approached for a date? Take a look at the person’s profile carefully to see if this is someone whom you would like as a friend. Don’t just look at the photo, as many wonderful people do not resemble Harrison Ford or Michelle Pfeiffer. Do find out all you can about the person and google their name online. You might even want to run a background check on the person, to be sure you are not meeting up with one of America’s Most Wanted. Understand that your date may do the same for you, because they too are taking a chance meeting a stranger.
Arrange to meet at a well-lit public place for a casual encounter. Do not have the person pick you up at home, and don’t invite them in for a “coffee” afterwards until you know them better. If he or she is the right one for you there will be time later for intimate candlelight dinners and hidden rendezvous.
You (and your date) will most likely be a little nervous at first, and approaching your date with a sense of humor helps break the ice. Remember that dating over 60 has many advantages. Your mature life experience helps you to not take every little thing so seriously,and you can laugh at little mishaps like a spilled wine glass or clueless waiter. Another plus of mature dating is that over 60 singles tend to be more compassionate about life, loss, and health issues that come up during conversation. Be careful though not to spend the entire evening talking about your dearly departed spouse, ungrateful adult children, or your arthritic knees. If you need to have a special food order due to diabetes or high blood pressure, simply place your order confidently with minimal explanation. Again, if he or she is the right one, there will be other more intimate moments for long talks about former partners and health concerns.
Feeling that rush of attraction takes many over 60 singles by surprise. You may feel like a teenager again as your fingers brush as you walk together, or he helps you on with your coat. Just because you are dating over 60 doesn’t mean you can’t get your flirt on like you used to. You may just find that special love that was worth waiting for.